• Marriage

    Fighting Fairly with Your Spouse

    โ€œFight.โ€  โ€œDisagree.โ€ โ€œDiscuss.โ€ Call it whatever you want, but if youโ€™re married, it happens. And thatโ€™s okay! Iโ€™m not saying we should unleash our anger and let careless words fly whenever we feel like it. We can, in fact, still…

  • Family

    Please Listen

    Parents, this poem might resonate with you, as it did with me when I read it today. Actually, it felt more like a big brick dropped on my head, because I very much struggle with jumping right into advice-giving when…

  • Family

    Setting Sail

    This month my firstborn child will graduate from high school, and, as all parents of seniors, I am wondering how we got here so quickly. In lieu of sadness, though, we are choosing to celebrate Callieโ€™s graduation, so she and…

  • Family

    Hard Conversations

    Hard conversations are part of life. And for those of us who really donโ€™t like confrontation, these conversations can be extremely taxing. The easy way out would be just to avoid them altogetherโ€“to โ€œkeep the peaceโ€โ€“, but we all know…

  • Family

    The Note

    I don’t know about your children, but mine seem to think that going to the bank is all about getting suckers.  One day a few years ago, my son Caleb was going to accompany me on one of these trips…

  • Family

    Nose-to-Nose, Heart-to-Heart

    Recently I had to have a difficult โ€œnose-to-noseโ€ conversation with my daughter. She was having a lot of trouble admitting that she was wrong about something, and Kevin and I had been noticing that this issue with her had been…